Let's mull that little tidbit over for a minute shall we?
For two years I worked as a
Sixteen years ago I decided that I didn't ever want to speak to my father again, the reason's really don't matter. Just know he was never a dad in any sense of the word, he never provided any type love and/or support for my sister and I.
I like you have ex boyfriends I never want to see or hear from again. What if they decide they want to see or hear from me? All they have to do is look me up and come on over.
I've said all that to say I've been seriously considering changing my last name. To what you ask? The last name that immediately comes to mind is Tyson's. Tyson has a fairly common last name, if I Google Kelli (insert Tyson's last name) plenty of results come up. At least 10 of the people listed in the results spell Kelli with an "I" like I do. Still that's 10 more people than I have to blend in with now.
I still don't want to get married and I don't have to get married to change my last name, for about $250 I can legally change my name to anything I want it to be. Like Princess Consuela Banana Hammock (please tell me you know the show I'm referencing).
Another plus to this last name change is that my last name would be the same as Little K's, not something that really matters in the grand scheme of life but it's still a plus.
What do you think about name changes? Have you ever known anyone that legally changed their name without getting married?
Friends reference, obviously!
ReplyDeleteI totally get why you want to change your name. I totally respect that you don't want to or need to get married. Do you think that having the same last name as Tyson without being married will just lead to more frustrating conversations about your life choices, though? I mean annoying conversations are way better than worrying about your safety and online security but I can see how it might already be annoying to have to answer busybody questions. Then again, if you had the same last name, maybe people would just assume you were married, you choose not to wear a ring, and that would be that. So many possibilities! Would changing to your mom's maiden name be an option?
That would creep me out, everyone being able to find me. My name is super common. I hate my middle name so I have considered legally changing that. But I have to run an ad in a paper here and all sorts of other things, so I haven't gotten around to it. One day! I say do whatever makes you most comfortable. People will definitely assume you guys are married though.
ReplyDeleteThat would be creepy. Normally I hate having a name that half the white population has from my generation but it does help me blend in when I want to.
ReplyDeleteI would think changing your last name would help it be easier to not get married. I'm not a fan of marriage paperwork myself so maybe having the same last name would open doors without having to legally get married? Like if he's in the hospital you may not have to jump through hoops to see him.
Hahaha I totally got the Princess Consuela Banana Hammock! I think that if you want to change your last name, you totally should! I like to blend in as well...and it is a bit harder with my first name. I love and hate that it is harder. It is a big decision and not to be taken lightly, It sounds like you have thought about it a lot and should go for it.
ReplyDeleteIt totally creeps me out how accessible our information is online. I really wish there was a way to scrub some of your online information. I think whatever you decide as long as your happy with it is all that matters. It's a process but it is possible.
ReplyDeleteFriends! So I wrote a whole post about how I don't like the concept of female only name change, but your situation is totally different. I'd say do whatever you need to do to keep yourself safe and if you have to change it anyway, you might as well take Tyson's and have that sense of family unity. I suppose people might assume that you guys are married, but I'd imagine some assume that already, and it's not really anyone else's business what the legal state of your relationship is.
ReplyDeletei know lots of people who have changed their surname for whatever reason they had; as long as it made them feel better/more safe, that's all that mattered.
ReplyDeleteThe only person I know who changed her name without getting married was a sorority sister of mine and when we were in college, she was legally adopted by her stepdad and she changed her last name to his. I think she kept it, even with being married now.
ReplyDeleteI think if it makes you feel more comfortable, you should do it. It's your name. It should be whatever you want it to be.
I love that episode of Friends. Phoebe rules.
Oooo, new header, I like! LOVE that photo and the logo is very nautical/coat of arms.
ReplyDeleteAnywho, scary that if your name is googled, your the only result that comes up! I just googled myself, scary.
I have never known anyone to change their last name but if it's allowed, then do it! (Of course I know that reference!)
I would change my last name in a second if I was the only one that came up. I say do it. Well worth the $$.
ReplyDeleteAlways love a Friends reference! The amount of information someone can find about a person, when they really want to, creeps me out! I feel like you're never really 100% safe these days.
ReplyDeleteif you're the only one who pops up, and it makes you uncomfortable (which clearly it does) change it. Personally, I love my last name. There are several of "me" out there, although I'm certain I'm the only female.
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